Are you raising a brilliant child?
Brilliant children are often sensitive and highly verbal (when encouraged and supported). They tend to notice things that other kids/people don’t see. They’re full of energy, do things their own way and are highly driven to pursue their interests.
But brilliant children also tend to communicate differently. They’re highly logic-based, blunt, direct and sometimes they even sound rude.
Brilliant kids say what they mean because they’re intelligent enough to believe in themselves.
However, these gifted children often experience constraint that limits their ability to be who they are.
They’re told they talk too much or ask too many questions. And oftentimes, when a kid is really trying to say they’re uncomfortable or confused, adults misunderstand the outburst and attack the child who’s really only looking for support (I know “attack” is a strong word, but this is how these children feel).
So I’ve created a rule for myself that helps me keep from overreacting…
If my girls say something that triggers me to react, I’ve trained myself to ask these 3 questions:
Can you explain that to me, or tell me more about that?
What do you really mean?
What are you trying to change?
Rather than having an emotional reaction or instantly correcting one of my daughters, these questions allow me to gain clarity around what’s going on so I can help them.
As soon as I started doing this, everything changed between my daughters and me. And I’d encourage anyone to do the same with their children!
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