The 3 Questions Brilliant Children Need to Hear
by Alex Charfen
Are you raising a brilliant child?
Brilliant children are often sensitive and highly verbal – when encouraged and supported. They tend to notice things that other kids/people don't see. They're full of energy, do things their own way, and are highly driven to pursue their interests.
But brilliant children also tend to communicate differently. They're highly logic-based, blunt, direct, and sometimes even come across as rude.
Brilliant kids say what they mean because they're intelligent enough to believe in themselves.
However, these gifted children often experience constraint that limits their ability to be who they are.
They're told they talk too much or ask too many questions. A lot of the time, when a kid is really trying to say they're uncomfortable or confused, adults misunderstand the outburst. Instead of trying to figure out what's going on with them, they attack the child who's really only looking for support. (I know “attack” is a strong word, but this is how these children feel).
So I've created a rule for myself that helps me keep from overreacting…
If my girls say something that triggers me to react, I've trained myself to ask these three questions:
- Can you explain that to me, or tell me more about that?
- What do you really mean?
- What are you trying to change?
Rather than having an emotional reaction or instantly correcting one of my daughters, these questions allow me to gain clarity around what's going on so I can help them.
As soon as I started doing this, everything changed between my daughters and me. I'd encourage anyone to do the same with their children!
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