What Does Genuine Leadership Look Like?

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Entrepreneurs are the visionary leaders of the world in this episode of the Momentum podcast, you'll get a behind the scenes look into these Charfen summit, an exclusive event for members of our coaching programs. By the end of this episode, you'll hear from real entrepreneurs leading world changing businesses about what genuine leadership is. You'll also understand the truth about how taking care of yourself can create momentum in your life and business, and you'll understand how to overcome perfectionist tendencies and create massive momentum in your business.

If you've ever wondered what genuine leadership looks like this episode is for you.

I'm Alex Charfen, and this is the momentum podcast made for empire builders, game changers, trailblazer, shot takers, record breakers, world makers and creators of all kinds, those among us who can't turn it off and don't know why anyone would want to. We challenge complacency, destroy apathy, and we are obsessed with creating momentum so we can roll over bureaucracy and make our greatest contribution. Sure, we pay attention to their rules, but only so that we can bend them, break them, then rewrite them around our own will. We don't accept our destiny. We define it. We don't understand defeat because you only lose if you stop. And we don't know how. While the rest of the world strives for average and clings desperately to the status quo, we are the minority, the few who are willing to hallucinate. There could be a better future. And instead of just daydreaming of what could be, we endure the vulnerability and exposure it takes to make it real.

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So to wrap up this event, you all, by the way, just show of hands how many people in their breakout room that somebody really awesome that you plan on connecting with again? Yes, OK, that's the whole goal we entrepreneurs need community, I think, way more than the rest of the world, yet we ignore a community for most of our careers and most of our lives.

How many of you embody that statement? I know I do. And so the more that we understand that this is where a lot of our our strength and a lot of our power, a lot of our understanding of the world is going to come from the more important it becomes to us. So what I would love to do and this is, you know, the way I like to do this after a break out is I want to you to share something you heard from someone else. So if you'd like to share if you heard something awesome from someone else, just put just say I'd like to share in the chat if you don't put something in the chat.

I just want to also point out that means what you're saying to the other people in your breakout room is that they weren't that awesome.

So, like, just consider that as you make this decision. You know, I like to see a lot of names in this chat. I'd like to get maybe 10 or 15 minutes of just some reflection here.

Our team loves to hear it. I like you all to hear from each other. So let's and keep keep piling them in here. Let's get this list a little bit longer than it is.

But let's start with Justin. Dyson, what's up?

Alex and not much Justin. Thanks, man. Thanks for being the first one to volunteer. I appreciate you.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's all good.

But yeah. So my group one thing Gabriella said that I agree with the sentiment she was just talking about, kind of like the psychological safety that we discussed throughout the day, kind of just self care in general as well. So for me and her both, I think that was kind of a big thing, especially because all the other craziness in the world right now. So that was kind of a big take away. And then the other thing that we we just kind of had more of a roundtable discussion after we shared our winds or whatever, just talking about or we had a good split between like operators and I guess the CEOs and the group.

And I happened to be dealing with both right now are being both right now.

So it's it was it was really cool to be able to just offer that back and forth of like, well, here's the CEO perspective and then also here's the operator perspective. And we're able to help one another kind of tackle a few questions or obstacles. So it was really good.

Nice, nice. Thanks, Justin. I appreciate you sharing Kosmo's. Let's hear from you and then we're going to Kelley next. I need a couple more names in here.

Kelly said she said the one thing that just keeps coming back time and time again back in her face is self care and how important it is.

And it is so funny.

We all kind of, you know. Hit on that and how we mistreat ourselves for the game. Yeah.

Yeah, totally, and was there was there any conclusion or anything? I mean, that's that's such an interesting way to put it, like we mistreat ourselves for the entrepreneurial game. And then again, I said this earlier, there's way too many examples in popular culture today of entrepreneurs who are making it look like the way to be successful is to mistreat yourself. So what conclusions or what input did you guys draw from that Kosmo's?

Well, I know I'm all still focused on self care and just keep keep writing it up, but even with death and like death and said, you know, if if he shows up in a in a in a way that's not 100 percent, then that's just radiated through the team and how important self care is for them. And, you know, it's not just for the entrepreneur. It's for is for is for the entire team. Yeah. Yeah.

I'm so pumped about a body of content we're going to go through tomorrow with this group. I didn't want to deal with the Catalyst group because it's too early for them, but I'm so excited to share this.

The content around how the entrepreneur is the inspirational leader of the company. The operator is the emotional leader. And I think then we don't we don't really pay attention to that. We don't look at it and say, like, you know what? What are we actually leaning? Yes, the operator is causing tasket. And yes, they're they're making things happen. But here's here's what I mean by that. The team is going to draw their emotional inspirited sorry. The team is going to draw their inspiration from the entrepreneur. They're going to draw their emotional lead from the operator.

And so one of the reasons that we don't just talk about self care for the entrepreneur, we do it for the operator. One of the reasons in our company, we actually have a self care stipend. We pay for part of people's health care on our team. We just implemented that this month. We've been talking about it for a couple of months. What we do just you know, if anyone wants details right now, we started with one hundred dollar health care stipend a month in order to make it so that we don't have to take taxes out of it. We're just having people send in receipts for whatever they do, massage, acupuncture therapy, whatever it is that is self care to them, and then we reimburse them. One hundred dollars. The reason that I'm so big on that for the operator, you know, like as I look at this screen, I see Robert and Dallin and I see Rachel and Brittany and Lori and Tiffany.

And as a team, you are the inspirational and emotional leaders of the business. And as an entrepreneur, you never want to step into that emotional place. You want the operator to have that because we are volatile emotionally, but we do want to have the inspirational lead.

And the operator doesn't want to take that away either because they're the emotional leader. And so once you separate those out and you understand it, self care takes on a whole new meaning, because if you aren't taking care of yourself, it's hard to do either of those.

It's hard to inspire awe and it's hard to lead emotionally. So, so good. Thanks for sharing. Let's see who is next here.

Well, I was in Kosmo's group, so some of the same things, but one of my one of my big takeaways from our group was actually Justin brought up being the emotional leader of the team. So that was huge. And when it comes to the whole self care conversation, one of the things that Kosmo's said was, you know, being one of those people and I'm very much like this like like saying yes to a lot of things because I believe I can do it, that Kosmo's started to create instead of a to do list, like I was thinking to don't list, like what he's not going to do and remove anything that doesn't move him towards his goals or outcomes that are specifically connected to his role. And so that was that really stood out for for me as well. But definitely the self care pieces like Big in my Face right now.

So good. Kelly, years ago, I had a consultant who told me you have to really be careful about what you say yes to because you block out everything else with enough. And it took forever for that to sink in. I remember asking, like, what do you mean by that?

He said, Well, you say yes to an appointment at noon on your calendar. You're saying no to anything else you could be doing at noon on your calendar. You say yes to jumping in and helping the team. You're saying no to everything else you could potentially be doing at that time. And when he said, you know, one of the biggest issues with entrepreneurs is that we are the fastest to say yes. In fact, you know, when we're in a decision making process, we want to get out of it as fast as possible. And if we can just say yes and take it on, oftentimes that's the habit we get ourselves and do so, so good. Kelly, I appreciate that. Really appreciate it. Let's see. Let's go to Dalan.

Yes, so we started with a self care conversation as well, so I'm really glad that we're all aligned on eliminating the stigmas around these topics fears. But what I found really helpful as well as I as a as a human, as a as a worker and a perfectionist. And so I don't like to release something to the team or to the public or to myself if it is not in its most complete state at that time. And so I. I've been as.

Going through the process so far, I've been taking my time and trying to be as meticulous as I can in pulling together all of our strategic direction. Documents all that to say that Angela reminded me that when we're building these processes, we're not going to get it right, we're not going to get it perfect the first time. And when you have nothing, when you're building a foundation, it's more important to get something out than it is to get the perfect final draft out. Which relates back to what you were talking about, Alex, regarding the the team training site is it doesn't have to be perfect the first time. Get it out there, do it, and then go back, refine and tweak, refine and tweak, refine and tweak through the process that we're all learning to implement here.

So I loved that realization, that reminder and that encouragement to keep doing good work.

But don't be my own bottleneck in preventing the process from.

Taking root earlier on, so good, so good, by the way, that first catch of the iPod was like really watch the athleticism and that did you see that it was like coming out things like just grab it and put it back in his stocking.

But, darling, you know, it's kind of like one of those one of those those things about being an operator.

Really amazing operators come in perfectionist packages.

They just do that's that's how it is like really amazing operators are perfectionists and then what what we do in our content is help walk away from perfection and walk into production by getting things done, like making that happen and using and really setting aside that quest for perfection because your business is broken.

And if things go well, it always will be. Anyone who is a perfectionist, you just put that on their desk and that should be what you start your day with, because then that way your blood pressure doesn't go up every time there's something that isn't perfect.

I love this realization and I think it's going to be huge for you, especially if you are an admitted recovering perfectionist. There is a ton in our group, I would say. You know, it's interesting. We even have entrepreneurs who are on the perfectionist side who want everything exactly how it needs to be perfect.

You know, it's funny, a friend of mine just did a a launch that I think was about three hundred or something.

K his sales letter was a Google doc. When you clicked, it opened to Google back and he sold off of a Google doc.

Three hundred thousand dollars in high ticket sales. So I look, you know, some people take it to the extreme of having to have everything be absolutely perfect. He crushed it with a Google like his name is George Ryan. It was super interesting watching him do that.

And I'm like, George, you have nothing. He's like, I know. Isn't it great? It's really funny watching. And then I'm like, man, I need to check myself. Like, this guy's doing it with a Google dog. And, you know, this this it shows you you just you don't have to have that level of perfection.

Thanks so much for the insight. Dan Travis Barker, public speaker.

Jump in there, man.

My takeaway is actually going to be from now on, he was talking about how this has been such a fantastic place to build connections and having the safe space to communicate, which I will echo that I'm sure it's recorded that it'll be OK. I just want to echo that. So Tiffany mentioned it to yesterday, and I think we heard it today about people getting on the support calls like the those are just awesome places. I try to get on them religiously, but I would encourage everyone to just because that is like it's comfort in a box for half an hour, so.

So good, that's a really good one, we're not going to add that to our sales page company in a box for a half hour.

Let's see, Andrew McDonald says we chatted a little about who else has implemented what. And despite wanting to implement everything perfectly, there it comes again.

Just picking the most important chunk and getting it done will bring growth and committing to not making it perfect.

What's our standard on Waterfall's like? What is a winning waterfall at the end of the month? A winning waterfall, like a celebration is 80 percent

Just 80 percent.

And here's what I know from working through these concepts with hundreds of companies. And when I used to do it, it was way more up close and personal. If we got a company to consistently hit between 70 and 80 percent of their waterfall, it exploded.

The companies who persisted to try and get to 90 percent or ninety five or just wouldn't let it said and they kept their people late and made people work late and made the waterfall all 100 percent happen, they did not explode. They caused frustration and irritation and anxiety and all kinds of other stuff.

If you trust this process, you will see that 80 percent puts you to where you need to be. So good Travis appreciate it, man.

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