Momentum Podcast: 885
No Visionary Joy
by Alex Charfen
As visionaries, we always want to be doing everything, everywhere, all at once. We always see everything in the future as bright and vibrant, which results in us planning too much not only for ourselves but also for our team and setting unrealistic expectations, thus setting ourselves up for disappointment. In this episode, I will show you how to break free from this mindset.
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This is the Momentum podcast.
Central nervous system regulation is one of the biggest success hacks we can have as a visionary entrepreneur, really as a human being. But if you're a visionary and you're running a team, you're working with your operator, you have customers, you have a business that you're growing. If you can regulate your central nervous system and be more present, more aware, more grounded and in your body, you will make better decisions. You'll see a brighter future and you'll create way more momentum. For years, I've suggested that visionaries meditate. And today I actually suggest that visionaries stop meditating and use an entirely different process altogether that actually works and creates incredible amounts of central nervous system regulation. I'm excited to share this with you.
I'm Alex Chauvin and this is the Momentum podcast. Made for Empire Builders, game changers, trailblazers, shot takers, record breakers, world makers and creators of all kinds. Those among us who can't turn it off and don't know why anyone would want to. We challenge complacency, destroy apathy, and we are obsessed with creating momentum so we can roll over bureaucracy and make our greatest contribution. Should we pay attention to their rules, but only so that we can bend them, break them, then rewrite them around our own will? We don't accept our destiny. We define it. We don't understand defeat because you only lose if you stop. And we don't know how. While the rest of the world strives for average and clings desperately to the status quo, we are the minority, the few who are willing to hallucinate. There could be a better future. And instead of just daydreaming of what could be, we endure the vulnerability and exposure it takes to make it real. We are the evolutionary hunters, clearly the most important people in the world because entrepreneurs are the only source of consistent, positive human evolution. And we always will be.
If you've listened to this podcast for a while, you're probably surprised to see the title that says Stop meditating and do this. Now, here's the reason that I'm sharing this with you. For years, I think it's probably been over ten years. I've been encouraging entrepreneurs to meditate. I encourage the muse headset. I've encouraged audio meditations. I've encouraged doing 2 or 3 minute meditations. And I think that there is just a challenge with the word meditation and the connotations it brings up. I think really the biggest challenge and now I'm going back to when I first learned how to meditate. You know, I was committed to meditation. I wanted central nervous system regulation. I know that I can get dysregulated. I know that my central nervous system is awesome, often on alert. I know that I can go into a person sympathetic nervous system response and go into fight flight. Fine. Or freeze? Actually, not that difficult. It doesn't take a lot to get me there. As a visionary, as somebody who's been through a lot of conflict, through a lot of challenges, through a lot of stuff in my life. And so I look at self-care and meditation and the things I do as putting gas in the tank so that I'm not as trigger bull, so that I'm not as reactive, so that I'm more present and I'm more aware. And that's like a bank account every time I do anything for myself that assists with central nervous system regulation. And that includes taking a mile walk in the morning, going through my morning routine, daily planning, daily alignment with my wife, hydrating, eating the right foods, exercising and not meditation, but what I now call time in neutral. Let me share with you where this comes from. Months ago, I was listening to a podcast with Joe Rogan, Rogan and Naval Ravikant and if you've never heard of it, even if you don't like Joe Rogan, I personally do. He lives right around the corner from us. I think he's pretty incredible for what one evolutionary hunter can do. Here's a guy who has more listenership and more popularity than all of the major news broadcasts combined. One guy literally was in his garage with friends and is now getting more attention than all of those organizations in the team and the staff that they have. So he's doing something extraordinary. And in the podcast with the Ball, which was so incredible and so dense and so many great takeaways and have all talked about what he does for what he calls meditation. And he said he just sits down and takes a period of time. I personally use 20 minutes and he just sits there with no expectations and whatever comes up in his mind, he allows it to process and move through. And he just does that on a daily basis. And it's, you know, the reason I think this is so profound in its explanation is when I was starting to meditate, I would ask people what meditation was and they would make the explanation sound so complicated and so confusing. I always thought I was doing it wrong. In fact, in retrospect, when I looked back at when I was learning how to meditate, I think a lot of the anxiety around doing it wrong was why I had such trouble with it. It was why I felt like I wasn't in the right or doing it the right way and I was reactive while I was doing it. Heck, I would sit down to meditate, go about two minutes, my mind would go crazy, and then I'd be like, I'm doing it wrong. I'm failing. I'm going to get out of here. And meditation, which was supposed to be calming and regulate my central nervous system, did the exact opposite. So if you've had this experience, I want you to know you are not alone. It's happened to so many of us and it's definitely happened to me. So here's how I've changed things and here's how I've changed my perception. And Narvel was a huge influence on this. Also recently, Katy and I were working with a shaman, a coach here in Austin, and we went through a ceremony that actually had quite a bit of intensity for me. And I was working through some trauma and some other things. And at the end of the ceremony, the shaman asked me like, you know, how are you feeling? And I felt kind of neutral. I didn't feel like I was high. I didn't feel like I was low. I didn't, I just felt neutral. I felt okay. I just felt present. I felt neutral. And he said, that's fantastic. Tell me what neutral feels like. And I said, I feel like I'm here. I feel like I'm grounded. I feel like I'm present. Like I'm seeing everything. Like I'm in my body. It feels good. And he said, Great. Here's my suggestion for you, spend 20 minutes in neutral every day. And as soon as he said 20 minutes in neutral, it triggered that conversation with Joe Rogan and the ball. And I'm like, Hey, that's what he was talking about. It's really 20 minutes in neutral. And so I started doing this practice every single day. Here's what I do. Typically it's after a workout or something else. I go up to my room or I go down to our theater room, which is pretty soundproof and quiet. I lay down on the floor. I put. A blanket over me. I usually put a bolster under my knee, my knees, so that I'm really comfortable. Cross my hands over my chest and set a timer for 20 minutes. I put on an eye mask and I just lay there and. Sometimes a lot of stuff comes up. Sometimes my mind starts processing and as soon as it starts processing, I'm like, Right on. That's exactly what's supposed to happen. The left, whatever needs to come out, come up. I'm just going to let it appear. I'm going to let it process, let it move through. And sometimes the stuff that processes and moves through is really important. And I'll jump up when the timer goes off and I'll go write it down. And sometimes stuff just comes up and moves through and it's not that important. And I let that happen too. But here's what's happened over time. Now, not all the time, but maybe one out of 3 or 2 out of three times when I lay down to do 20 minutes in neutral, it used to feel like forever. Yeah. Just to tell you, you know, give you a little bit of foreshadowing. Meditation neutral. It just used to feel like it took forever. And I've been doing this for a long time. I've done it in so many different ways. But now here's what happens. Sometimes I lay down and my mind will start processing. I'll take a couple of deep breaths and then the alarm goes off. And I've been there for 20 minutes and it feels like I was there for a minute and I realize I wasn't asleep. I wasn't processing. I was in a state of neutral. I was actually in a meditative state. I was in a calming central nervous system connecting state. I was in a place where I was actually offloading and processing and then it just didn't have anything left to process. And I feel incredible when I get up out of it. In fact, I just did it maybe 15, 20 minutes ago, came down, recorded another episode of the podcast. Now I'm recording this one and I feel great. I feel grounded, I feel present, I feel aware. I feel like I'm in momentum. It's so interesting how the stillness and quiet of spending 20 minutes in neutral will create momentum for us. You know, as visionaries, we are driving individuals. As visionaries. Our minds are almost always going as visionaries. We are always pressing and moving forward and doing something, and there's always something processing when we give our minds some time off, when we give our consciousness some time off and we put ourselves in neutral, it's amazing how much more capacity it creates. And here's the best part of being in neutral for 20 minutes. You can't do it wrong unless you stop. My only suggestion is set the timer for 20 minutes and don't look at your phone. It might feel like a long time at the beginning, but just have the discipline to let yourself get all the way through the 20 minutes. And here's what I know will happen because I've been sharing this with people since I started doing it, and this is the feedback I've gotten. Alex The first time was so long and the second time was so long and the third time felt even longer and then the fourth time kind of felt different. And then by the second week I was doing it. The 20 minutes wasn't so bad. And by the third week I really started looking forward to the 20 minutes. And then there was a time in the fourth week where I missed 20 minutes in neutral for a day. And I felt it and I really wanted it. And it's this time where I'm not doing anything, but it feels like so much is moving, changing and shifting, and I become so much more present, so much more aware, and it just feels like momentum. This is so much easier than trying to quote unquote, meditate because again, you can't do it wrong unless you stop. You can't do a wrong unless you pull out of the meditation or sorry, you pull out of the timing neutral and you stop doing it. And this is one of those things that has been game changing for me. And I'm an experienced meditator. I mean, really experienced meditator. I've done hundreds of thousands of hours of meditation. There was a point when I was meditating three times a day with the muse headset and, you know, scoring super high scores on all the meditation stuff. I know how to get my mind into theta waves and how to, you know, do breathing that moves things around and all those things. But this simple practice has been one of the most game changing for me and one of the most grounding for me to create massive momentum moving forward. And I want you to feel it. So 20 minutes in neutral is simple. Find a quiet place to lay down. You can sit down. I would recommend you lay down, throw maybe a cushion or a bolster under your knees. Set a timer for 20 minutes and do nothing. And whatever happens, just know you're doing it right. You're winning and you're calming your central nervous system. I am obsessed with calming your central nervous system. I think the reason is I'm one of those people who has a highly triggered, highly reactive central nervous system. I'm 51 years old. When I was an infant in Mexico in 1972, I had an operation shortly after I was born on my abdomen to repair Poloniex to Gnosis. And I now know as an adult that that operation was done without anesthesia. So I'm one of those people who has a highly reactive nervous system just showing up. I've always had doctors tell me I carry excessive tone, that my muscles are too tense, that my muscles are too tight, that. I'm reactive, that I'm hyperactive, that I have all these issues. But what it really is, is for most of my life I've had a triggered and reactive central nervous system. And over the course of the past couple of decades, I've done everything I can to calm it down. I've done everything I can to become more present and more aware, to overcome the triggers that I have from the past, to overcome the crazy white coat syndrome I used to get when I would walk into a doctor's office and my heart rate would go up to literally just below heart attack speeds, I would have my heart beating out of my chest. I'd be sweating, I'd have anxiety, I'd have trouble breathing. And it was all a reaction to what had happened to me when I was younger. And it got reinforced throughout my childhood being sick. So many of us have things like this that if we create process, structure and routine, if we create habits around calming our central nervous system, things will get infinitely better. I'm happy to report that today I can go to a doctor's office without a panic attack, without having the hurt, my heart rate go to heart attack speeds. So it gets triggered a little bit, but it comes back to normal a lot faster than it used to. And I've gone from one of the most reactive central nervous system people that I know to one of the most present and aware and calm to central nervous systems. And I can tell you that making decisions from this place, that interacting with the people around me from this place, that understanding my life and my time with my family and myself and planning from this place has been infinitely more successful than trying to do things from a reactive, triggered, checked out place. 20 minutes and neutral is life changing. I've got one other hack for you for calming your central nervous system. This will help you with time in neutral. This will help you planning this will help you be more present. This will help you be more aware. It will help you make better food choices. It will help you get more done in a day, and it will help you be overall healthier and more connected. One of the things I've obsessed with my whole career is drinking water. It's one of those things that I sort of for a long time, I actually created a process for us to drink more water. That, along with Time in neutral, will help you call your central nervous system. Dehydration is one of the most challenging things for our central nervous system. In fact, when you get dehydrated, it encourages the symptoms of stress and autoimmune disease and adrenal fatigue and chronic fatigue and all kinds of other things come from a lot of functions in the body. But they may be in your body and many body's triggered by dehydration. In fact, the symptoms of dehydration line up with the symptoms that the top 20 drugs in the United States treat symptoms like anxiety and infection and inflammation and pain and frustration and depression. All of those things can be caused by water. And so as you start your 20 minutes in neutral on a daily basis, I would also suggest you go for a ten day natural thirst challenge. We've had over 10,000 entrepreneurs go through this process and it is a simple system to help you be fully hydrated and drink more water. Naturally, within ten days you can go to getthirstynow.com to check out the ten day natural thirst challenge. This is a great compliment to spending ten 20 minutes in neutral on a daily basis. Go to getthirstynow.com. Join the ten day natural thirst challenge go do 20 minutes in neutral and then reach out to me. If you make a social media post about this or if you share it somewhere or you can even message me through social, I'd love to know that you tried this and that it worked for you like it did for me.